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  1. Jennifer
    September 17, 2016 @ 5:27 am

    I found this blog via IG, and both have been lifelines for me at times. I have never known the kind of crushing pain that I am going through as a result of the loss of this relationship and man who I believed was my forever. I feel like nothing more than an empty shell and most days I just want to fall asleep and never wake up. Thanks for giving me a glimmer of hope and occasional relief knowing this is a pattern and personality disorder. I had no idea.

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    • Jill
      September 20, 2016 @ 9:29 am

      Jennifer, You sound like me the FIRST time I left my ex. I was crushed, barely able to function, crying all the time. Keep reading everything you find – it will arm you with the truth about him. Was he also abusive? My ex was. I went back many times. I can tell you this, after 4+ years I am FINALLY moving on and I feel the best I have in a VERY LONG time. You will see the patterns, predict his behavior and eventually you will be able to ignore him, go no contact and move on from him and YOU WILL BE HAPPY AGAIN. Stay strong!!! Remember, you didn’t deserve this!

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    • narcissist.sociopath.awareness@gmail.com
      October 4, 2016 @ 1:08 am

      The first month or so can be soul crushing. You’ll suffer physical pain & weakness akin to the worst flu you’ve ever had. But it gets better. Take every possible step to come to terms with the pathology you were dealing with. This acceptance will lead you to the next steps: knowledge & time. Without the former two, time will not cure all. Learn all you can, but be mindful of triggering information. Use no contact & safe places to heal your wounds.

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    • Ivy
      October 20, 2016 @ 11:26 am

      This is my first time too. I was promised heaven and earth and even all the twinkling stars. I made excuses for the manipulation and emotional abuse, there were endless talk of marriage and our future together, I was besotted! Madly head over heels in love, and I still am, she was the best drug I ever had! Loving her made me feel like I could fly, everything about her just made me warm and fuzzy, but I slowly (2.5 years of slowly) started to piece things together and it just started to become clear that it was all lies cause there were so many words but no actions, while all I was doing was bending over backwards to show my love, to prove I was worthy. I was the fool in this story, I gave part of myself to someone who just needed me to feed their ego, and I believed every single word and promise. I’m healing now, but it’s not easy. Talk about it to anyone who understands, it will help.

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  2. Azula
    October 5, 2016 @ 12:49 pm

    I lived the very same scenario last month when we broke up. .. I am slowly recovering and it is really no easy task. Some days I feel like I’m finally over it and the next day i feel dead inside again. I miss him at times -actually the image of him since he was never real- it’s like he’s taken tomorrow with him.
    What is sure is that reading about narcissists to remind myself I have made the right choice helps me. I need to be reminded I was the victim because overthinking makes me sometimes believe otherwise.
    Jennifer, be strong, we’ll eventually get over it for good. Let’s give it time.

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  3. sara
    October 7, 2016 @ 2:49 pm

    I’m currently living in a similar scenario, I honestly cant seem to shake him off the addiction has gotten out of control. im so confused i don’t know what to do with myself i tell myself all the time hes no good but i whenever he calls ill ignore the first like 5 calls but he gets very persistent and i eventually answer. I’m so desperate for help I don’t know where to turn too.

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    • narcissist.sociopath.awareness@gmail.com
      October 14, 2016 @ 1:17 pm

      The best way to handle this is by blocking his calls. It’s far easier to evade someone than to ignore their repeated attempts at contact. The only way to heal is to create space between you & your abuser.

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  4. Maesie
    November 8, 2016 @ 1:02 am

    Incredible article!! Never knew there were others going thru this! I’m going thru this at this very moment…please make it clear to me why they feel the need or desire to come back around again when they moved on as well as you finally are able to!? I’ve been thru this several times with the same person! I have been in contact because we have bills due together&i need payments made.

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  5. Abby
    February 9, 2017 @ 1:28 am

    I have a child with my ex. I want to say ive moved on but i still want to know whats going on in his life for some reason. My kids dont have a relationship with him and to not feel guilty about it i tell myself its ok to cyberstalk him to make sure i made the right choice since hes still worthless. another of his exs and i have befriended each other for our chikdrens sake but i feel it mostly to keep a line to him open since hes all we talk about and alk we habe in common…what to do??

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    • narcissist.sociopath.awareness@gmail.com
      February 13, 2017 @ 3:45 pm

      No contact includes cyberstalking. Staying up to date on his life is extremely detrimental to your mental health. How much more evidence to you need that you’ve made the right choice? Do not keep a door open hoping for closure.

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      • Betty Roberts
        June 20, 2017 @ 4:56 pm

        My heart goes out to all of you. My son is married to a malignant narcissist who abuses him but he does not see it and defends her behaviour. I have been on the receiving end of her a abuse. When I called her out on reckless behavior during a visit that could have been dangerous, she launched a smear campaign against me and have bee ostracised from my immediate family. I have the right to defend myself and this will be handled by educating family and friends on this insidious abuse. In the meantime, I have no contact with my DIL and anyone who supports this smear campaign. I recommend that you all see a therapist whose specialty is victims of NPD…..not narcissists themselves. Believe it or not, there are only about 20 in the world so sessions through Skype might be your option. Do not see therapists who are not knowledgeable in victims of NPD because you will be further victimised. I feel your pain and frustration. I am on the brink of losing my son and doing all I can to stay in contact with him even though he blamed me for abusng that BITCH narc. I hope he finds his bottom and crawls out of the rabbit hole and leaves Wonderland.

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        • narcissist.sociopath.awareness@gmail.com
          June 22, 2017 @ 3:08 pm

          It is excellent advice to remove yourself from contact with those perpetuating or participating in the smear campaign. It is very difficult to find therapists who specialize in working with victims of narcissists, which is what led me to begin coaching these victims. I hope your son wakes up & sees his wife for what she truly is.

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  6. Jenny
    July 17, 2017 @ 10:35 pm

    Thank you for this❤️Recently came across your IG page and I cannot begin to express how grateful I am for you. I was in a relationship with one 2 years ago who left me questioning everything I use to stand for and believe in. I am currently in recovery and still healing, learning about setting boundaries and to pay closer attention to those red flags. To all of you who have shared your stories, THANK YOU for your courage & strength.

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    • narcissist.sociopath.awareness@gmail.com
      July 19, 2017 @ 11:30 am

      Thank you for you kind message & for sharing your story.

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