You were in love, elevated to the highest pedestal by constant attention & overwhelming adoration. This blissful state may have lasted weeks, months or even years before things began to change. Perhaps your devaluation was so insidious that you never noticed; maybe things changed overnight. At that point, it was just a matter of time before you would be discarded in the most damaging way possible.
If this description resonates with you, it’s possible that you’ve been involved with a narcissist. It will take time for the fog to clear, and there are three critical steps to your recovery: acceptance, knowledge & time. You must accept that the person, as you thought you knew them, never really existed. They were tailor made as your “ideal” mate. Intellectually accepting this reality is vital to protecting your emotional wellbeing. Next, learning about narcissists, sociopaths & psychopaths will bring clarity to the chaos. Your ability to heal with be vastly improved if you garner the specific skills required to protect yourself against further psychological abuse. Last, the passage of time will slowly begin to ease your pain.